For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says Yahveh, thoughts of shalom (peace), and not of evil, to give you tov (good) tiqvah (hope) in the end. “Yirmeyahu (Jeremiah) 29:11”
When I thought about a name for my therapy practice, one of my favorite verses in scripture came to mind (Jeremiah) 29:11. Like many of us, I often quote it to myself. When I learned the Hebrew word tiqvah and what it really means, the verse took on a whole new meaning. The English translation of the verse uses the phrase “to give you a good and expected end.” The word expected is translated from the Hebrew word tiqvah. However, the Hebrew word tiqvah isn’t limited to just “expected” or “hope.” It’s hard to hope or expect something when you don’t know what to hope or expect for.
The Hebrew word tiqvah comes from a root verb qavah (kä·vä), which means, “to hope, to expect, to wait or look eagerly for, to lie in wait for, to wait and linger for, to collect, bind together.” Tiqvah literally means, “to expect and wait for a particular outcome.” If we look at the meanings of the Hebrew characters which spell the Hebrew word tiqvah, then we understand what hope it is we are to expect. Tiqvah is spelled with the Hebrew characters Tav, Qoph, Vav, Ha. The Hebrew character Tav means, “the total sum of truth and perfection.” The Hebrew character Qoph means, “holiness and growth cycle.” The Hebrew character Vav means, “to add completion and redemption.” The Hebrew character Ha means, “to reveal life and light, through the breath inside of you.” In Yirmeyahu (Jeremiah) 29:11, Yahveh says that He has a plan for each one of us and that plan includes giving us tiqvah in the end.
The Hebrew characters teach us that all our worrying and fretting about how things are going to turn out is pointless because Yahveh has given us something to eagerly look for. He has given us the expectation of truth and perfection. He has given us the expectation of holiness and growth. He has given us the expectation of completion and redemption through His One and Only Son Yahshua. He has given us the expectation of Breath, which is His Holy Spirit on the inside of each of us. The excitement of that is the definition of hope. Bringing a genuine sense of hope and optimism into the therapy process is of the greatest importance in my work with clients. It’s important to remember that therapy is often the last resort for people who are struggling. By the time they land in our therapy room, they have exhausted other resources. When all other attempts fall short, the idea that things can actually improve, stories can be re-written, or inner peace and healing can be achieved is severely tested and pessimism is likely to set in. Therefore, the onus is often on the therapist to hold a sense of hope. Fortunately, there is Tiqvah I can infuse in the therapy process with the notion that there is truly a light at the end of the tunnel—and it’s not an oncoming train!
“You can’t rewrite your history, but you can change the story your future tells, and it’s beautiful”
BCom Industrial Psychology
I grew up as a country girl in Ermelo, studied B.com and worked in a corporate environment till I discovered my real passion and calling in 2002…. working with adolescents and making a difference in their lives.
One of my favorite quotes is: “I wish it need not have happened in my time,” said Frodo “So do I,” said Gandalf, “and so do all who live to see such times. But that is not for them to decide. All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given to us.” ― J.R.R. Tolkien, The Fellowship of the Rings.
And this is what I decided to do with the time given to me – to give up the corporate world and journey with people, and especially with young people, and help make a difference in their lives.
Since 2002 I worked in youth ministry, and my vision was that we are here to reach young people, to journey with them in their surrender to God, to make them part of His family and to equip them to serve God with their lives.
September 2012 I decided to leave full time ministry, and studied Pastoral Narrative Therapy at Coram Deo, affiliated with University of Pretoria. This is where this amazing journey with narrative therapy started. Through studying Narrative therapy, I re – visited my God given passion and calling, and started using my special talents and gifts, and my Narrative Therapy knowledge, to journey with young people in re-writing their life story. My journey with Coram Deo started as the coordinator and therapist for the adolescent part of Coram Deo, and I still love my affiliation with Coram Deo as Therapist, Lecturer and Supervisor.
I started supervision and intense training with FACT networking, focusing on sexual abuse and developmental phases of children and adolescents. In 2017 my journey with them started, where I give training on Adolescents and self-harm, and being the reference therapist for the adolescent clients.
Aside from this amazing age group and narrative therapy, I am in love with a few more things in life, I love my family, my husband and 2 adolescents, I have a special love for animals, to be creative and water-sport. My most amazing experience in the water was diving with sharks, and snorkeling with Manta Rays. One of the items on my bucket list, is definitely to dive with a whale shark.
Career wise, I do not know what the future has in hold for me. What I do know is that I am loved, called and chosen. I’m anointed and appointed, equipped and enabled by the power of God that works within me! I live, breathe and serve powerfully under the shelter of the Most High God.
- University of Pretoria/ Coram Deo Pastoral Narrative Counseling & Training centre
Advanced Diploma in Pastoral Narrative Therapy
- University of Free State/ Emmaus Centre
Diploma: New Partnership – Family ministry
- Certified Clinical Trauma Professional (CCTP) Training Course
Essentials of Trauma Treatment
- University of Pretoria
Baccalaurus Commerccii Degree
BCom Industrial Psychology
- FACT TRAINING AND SUPERVISION – Neurobiology of Shame presented by Dr Barbara Wade.
- Assessment of Attachment; A multi-method approach presented by Dr Louise Aucamp.
- Socio Emotional Assessment of children presented by Dr Louise Aucamp
- Introduction to Child Assessment presented by Dr Louise Aucamp.
- Facilitating the Child’s Disclosure of Sexual Abuse presented by Dr Louise Aucamp.
- Socio Emotional assessment of children with developmental delays presented by Dr Louise Aucamp.
- Introduction to life story work presented by Dr Louise Aucamp
- Emotional and cognitive regulation of kids presented by Dr Louise Aucamp.
- Attachment supervision and support group 2016 – 2017 presented by Dr Louise Aucamp.
- Attachment supervision and support group 2020 presented by Dr Louise Aucamp
Membership no. M2008001BOSH
Duration: 3/08/2020 – 2/08/2021
I am a pastoral Narrative Counselling student, both pre- and post- certification for the past two years or so, the latter as Supervision student, with Hanlie. Whilst in the beginning of my narrative studies I (and I am sure my other co-students) felt as if somewhere in a stormy initiation I lost my caring song and confidence. Hanlie guided us (a small crew of narrative amateurs – me too) as a professional coxswain into a ‘fight’ against social constructionism and other discourses against the marginalized and voiceless (especially teenagers and young adolescents) and steered us, informally and formally, kind, equipped, passionately and purposefully to become a well-trained crew, even in the wake of oncoming or problem-saturated storms, so that we could journey with our clients to rekindle their voices and songs, after calming their storms narratively (and pastorally, if they shared their God-story too). Her style and professionalism not only for us as a lecturer, but also the short glimpses of her work with her clients, reminded me of the story of the lost boy entering through a ‘no admittance door’ at a concert of a piano master. The master quietly made an entrance into our and their lives, almost whispering in motivation and encouragement: ‘Don’t quit, keep playing’, filling in where we (and clients) are still learning, playfully, but together changing a frightening, voiceless situation into unique outcomes. The ‘preferred story’ of the unknown writer ends with a metamorphosis, inviting a pastoral piece, where an outrageous, dull spell of a problem-saturated situation, a dried-up song, a feeling of a desperate dark night is changed into a togetherness, softness and soothing safety of the master’s reminding that we (and I) are not alone. We can still play together in creative curiosity and co-authoring , transforming broken pieces to mesmerize a problem-defined history to an exciting song of future hope, agency and peace. I thank Hanlie for all of this and more, and will recommend any student or client, to journey with her towards a creative and wonderful experience.
I had my first session with Hanlie when I was 15, and now three and a half years later, I still greatly value her insight. She is one of the most caring and genuine people I know, and I have always walked out of the sessions feeling as though I have gained a new perspective.
Vanuit ‘n beraders oogpunt is ek bevoorreg om tydens my opleiding by Coram Deo (Narratiewe pastorale sentrum vir beraders) Hanlie Boshoff as ‘n lektor te kon hê, in die vakgebied Tienerskap.
Sy het ongeveer 20 jaar se ondervinding met berading van tieners. Sy het ‘n onbeskryflike passie vir tieners en stap met hulle ‘n pad in hul totaliteit as individue. Haar kennis ten op sigte van die kompleksiteit van tieners se ontwikkeling stagneer nooit nie, omrede sy haarself deurgaans toerus met kennis om vanuit ‘n nie-blamerende, veilige praktyk tot in hul diepste wese te sien. Sy doen soveel navorsing deur te lees en deel van die tienergemeenskap te wees. Haar vermoë om dubbel te luister en nuuskierig saam met ‘n tiener te “journey” is ‘n belewenis. Haar sessies met die tieners in haar praktyk is vir haar ‘n hieligdom wat sy koester met haar hele wese. Haar grootste droom is om ‘n “legacy” na te laat vir tieners!
Dankie Hanlie dat ek steeds deel kan wees van nuwe lesings wat jy aanbied – dit is van onskatbare waarde.
Mag jou praktyk net seën en energie vir jou bring!!
I have journeyed with Hanlie over the past 4 years as a student and now a friend. She has had a profound impact on my development as a narrative therapist. Her work as a councilor is inspiring. She is also an incredible support to me personally.
Hanlie is one of the most authentic people I know. She has a heart of gold and I will be forever grateful for the way she has touched my life.
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